Live Con 2022 Workshops + Speakers

April 15th - 17th, 2022
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Keynote Session: Community Supported Non-Monogamy
Ignacio Rivera (they/them) & Aredvi Azad (they/them)

Join us for an interactive workshop to discuss strategies for building resilient, fulfilling, and community-supported non-monogamous relationships. We will unpack harmful relational dynamics when there are multiple partners, or interest in expanding the relationship. Wondering about healthy patterns of communication, accountability, and sustainable support in your non-monogamous relationships? Participate in this workshop to clarify your relational needs, desires, points of intimacy, and ways of engaging your community in your sexual and romantic practices.

Ignacio G Hutía Xeiti Rivera (Ig-Nah-See-Oh Gee Who-tee-ah She-eye-tee Ree-ve-Rah), M.A., is a cultural sociologist with expertise in sexual trauma and healing for marginalized populations. Ignacio is a Queer, Trans/Yamoká-hu/Two-Spirit, Black-Boricua, and Taíno activist who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they.” They are an internationally known gender non-conforming speaker, educator, writer, and performer with over 20 years of experience on multiple fronts, including economic justice, anti-racist and anti-violence work, as well as mujerista, LGBTQI and sex positive movements. Ignacio is also the founder and curator of Poly Patao Productions, which began 20 years ago and centers the sexual liberation of LGBTQI people of color. Ignacio’s work is influenced by their lived experience of homelessness, poverty, and sexual trauma and is focused on providing educational opportunities that are especially geared toward the sexual liberation of queer women, transgender, multi-gender, gender-queer, gender non-conforming, gender variant and queer people of color. Ignacio is the host of Connecting The Dots, a talk show that paints a holistic picture of how Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) shows up in everyday life and every level of society. Ignacio and their guests discuss ways to take an active role in changing the culture of shame and secrecy that makes CSA possible. As the Founder and Executive Director of The HEAL Project, Ignacio is on a mission to prevent and end childhood sexual abuse through healing the wounds of sexual oppression and embracing sexual liberation. igrivera.com | heal2end.org

 

Aredvi Azad (uh-Red-vee ah-Zah-d) is a certified sex and relationship coach, and an educator, writer, and speaker who has been producing educational media on gender and sexuality, kink and BDSM, and intersectional approaches to relationship building for the past decade. An Irani-American immigrant, Aredvi is a queer and trans/genderfluid relationship nerd who uses the gender neutral pronoun “they.” Aredvi’s work focuses on identifying patterns of bonding in adults who have experienced childhood emotional and sexual trauma, including generational and oppressive trauma of racism, sexism, classism, and other systems of inequality. As a scientist-turned-sex-educator, Aredvi is a self-proclaimed sexual liberationist working towards a sexually imaginative and expansive world. Aredvi is a Co-Executive Director at The HEAL Project, on a mission to prevent and end childhood sexual abuse through healing the wounds of sexual oppression and embracing sexual liberation. aredviazad.com | heal2end.org
 

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Ignacio is pictured on the left. They are a caramel skin, AFAB, gender fluid, Black-Latinx- Indigenous being. They have very short dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. They are wearing a red and black dress with a diagonal line pattern and red colored glasses. They have a septum piercing and nose ring on the right side. They have a tattoo on their chin, starting at the bottom of their lower lip —a red strip that turns black under the chin and reaches their neck-dent. A spider is at the end of the black line inside the neck-dent. They have a chest tattoo that says “Fluid” and several other arm and finger tattoos.

Aredvi Azad is pictured on the right. They are a genderfluid Irani-American immigrant. Aredvi has short dark brown hair, brown eyes and is wearing stud earrings and a septum ring. They have a brown mole on their right cheek and have a small beard. They are wearing a grey jacket and are standing against a blurred background with a large house plant.
 

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Ready or Not: Insights & Practical Tips on Race in Relationships
Jazz Goldman (they/them) & Coach Lex (he/him)

The workshop is about how quarantine forced conversations about anti-racism and intersectionality in relationships. A blend of dialogue and participation. We will be delving into anti-racism, assessing and accepting one's awareness of racism, learning under pressure (what to do and what not to do), and the more foundational communication skills needed to have these difficult conversations. One of our goals is that that you will walk away with increased self-acceptance and skills to continue learning and growing.

Jazz Goldman is a trans/femme/nonbinary Black & Jewish sex educator, performance artist, yoga practitioner & non-monogamous human being. They have been brought to you from the disco realm, to help you learn new ways to think about the world, bodies & pleasure. They have been active in polyam community since 2006 and sex education since 2011 when they began working at sex positive adult shops and teaching relationship/sex ed workshops. Using an eclectic approach --like gender queer miss frizzle meets afrofuturist space alien, Jazz weaves dance & movement with gender theory, sex ed and music. See what they're up to next at jazzgoldman.com. Find Jazz On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jazzgoldman/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jazz.goldman.1/

 

Coach Lex is a WASC certified sex coach who specializes in sexual communication in order to create a world where people can speak about sex as comfortably as they speak about breakfast. His work includes individuals, couples, and the polyamorous community, as well as the LGBT and kink communities (GSRD groups). Lex facilitates groups, workshops, and works with clients worldwide.

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Jazz is pictured left and is a Black & Jewish person with jaw length black hair with a grey background. They are pictured with a quizzical look holding their chin with their hand in the 'thinking' position. They are wearing a long sleeve button down black shirt.

Lex is pictured right and is a white man with shoulder length curly dark hair and dark brown eyes. He is slightly smiling wearing a black t-shirt with a black jacket over top with a dark background in the picture.

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Don’t Leave Your Baggage at the Door
Heather Franck (she/her)

Inspired by the forgotten dating game show Baggage, this interactive workshop will explore the emotional baggage we bring to new relationships through a group game and guided discussion. We will take a light hearted approach to the when and what we choose to reveal to potential lovers, as well as the when and what we expect in return. This workshop may include some harsh opinions about deal breakers and red flags in dating. Please come with an open mind and a body positive approach to the discussion.

Heather Franck is an artist best known for her adult coloring book, Polyamory is Sketchy. She co-leads polyQ, a social and support network for queers in polyamory. Heather has presented on inclusion at Atlanta Poly Weekend, RelateCon, and genderevolution. She is passionate about LGBTQ visibility and educational outreach. Heather practices hierarchical polyamory with her primary partner and femme girlfriend in Idaho, who all tri-parent their pre-schooler Makana.

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Heather is a white woman with dark brown curly hair and dark brown eyes. She is pictured reclining with a drawing pad in her lap as if drawing sitting in a black office chair in front of a wooden desk with an Apple computer. She appears surprised or an animated look with black cat-eye glasses, a large paint spattered paintbrush in her mouth with a red polka dotted bandanna tied in her hair with an olive green tee shirt with white stripes, jean shorts and tall rainbow striped socks.

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Shameless STIs: Everything you need to know that your doctor doesn't
Evelin Dacker (she/her)

As a queer, Latinx, medical doctor I see the lack of good, sex positive sexual health education. Shameless STIs is a workshop that specifically addresses the needs of nonmonogamous people.
 

Evelin Dacker, MD is a Latinx- American, sex-positive Integrative Family Medicine physician. She is active in creating a safe space for LGBTQIA youth and adults and helping people through illness, trauma, and life transitions towards finding balance and joy. She incorporates a multidisciplinary approach with principles of gratitude and pleasure to support her patients in creating their own wellness. In addition to practicing medicine, Evelin (pronounced Ev-ah-leen), was the Executive Director of SexPositive Portland from 2017-2020. She created the safer sex communication model STARS to help facilitate open and honest sex conversations. She is a consent and sex educator, sexual health activist and TEDx speaker.

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Evelin is Latinx with light olive skin, dark brown eyes and eyebrows with light purple curly hair. She is pictured gently smiling looking to the left with her head forward and her chin resting on her wrist with her arm. Her arm is visible in the background with black & green tatoo. She has dark pink red lipstick on and a metal stud nose ring.

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Taking the Ass Out of U and Me: Addressing the Role of Assumptions in Conflict and Communication
Emily Viola (she/her)

There's an old saying that, "When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me". Both in working as a therapist and in engaging in queer and non-monogamous relationships, making assumptions seems to come up frequently as the cause of major conflict and relationship ruptures. This workshop will utilize teaching to provide a trauma informed background about why we make assumptions so often and will provide activities to build both individual and interpersonal skills for reducing conflict in communication by reducing how often we make and act on assumptions. Skills will be pulled from therapies such as DBT and attachment based therapy, as well as conflict resolution and transformative justice. The information will also focus on ideas and skills that are specifically relevant for queer and non-monogamous communities.

Emily Viola LCSW is a queer therapist in Tucson, AZ who enjoys working with children, teens, young adults, and their families. She specializes in working with people who are working to heal from trauma, have been in the foster care system, and/or are exploring their gender and sexual identities. Emily has 11 years of experience in the field of social work including working in group homes, teaching youth in foster care, providing in-home therapy, and providing group, individual, and family office based therapy. Her knowledge of trauma comes from professional experience and training as well as her own journey in healing from long term traumatic experiences.

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Emily is a white woman with wavy long brown hair and dark rimmed cat eye glasses. She's pictured with the sunset behind with her hand on the side of her head, holding her hair back. She's laughing and wearing a white t-shirt that says "Going to therapy is cool!" in capitalized block print in multi-colors.

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Queering Existentialism in Sex Therapy
Tamar Reed (she/they)

Existentialism is an approach that centers an individual’s making of meaning through consciousness, freedom, choice, mortality, and responsibility. An existential approach to sex therapy is a depth-approach, in which treatment of sexual functioning involves the whole person rather than simply focusing on outward symptoms. While the existentialist-humanistic approach is recently gaining more traction among sex therapists, a cisgender heteropatriarchal white lens continues to dominate the narrative. Join Mx. Tamar Reed, LPC, on a journey into a very Queer, very kaleidoscopic and multidimensional/existential healing and clinical framework. This workshop will include both didactic and experiential components. (experiential components will be cues to small group or individual self-reflection and processing)

Tamar Reed, LPC is an anti-racist, Queer, Femme, Jewish, fat/body positive psychotherapist living and working in Tucson, Arizona. They love to employ somatic, polyvagal, and experiential approaches in therapy and are dedicated to supporting healthy development of sexuality and gender, and to facilitating paths toward relationship fulfillment. Tamar is also a parent to queer teens, a beloving/beloved partner, a dog and cat mom, and a student working simultaneously toward sex therapist certification and a Ph.D. in clinical sexology. You can find Tamar on Instagram: @queeringsextherapy.

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Tamar is a Jewish woman with hair, nose piercing stud and light rimmed cat eye glasses. The image is in black & white with curved rainbow refraction coming from the upper right side to the lower left corner below Tamar's face with a three branch tree trunk behind. Tamar is slightly smiling with a wrap on their head, long metallic earrings that are squiggled snakes with a sunbeam fanned tail and wearing a dark robe/wrap top.

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The Relationship Dance for ADHD in Open Relationships
Teresa Jones & Steve Ratcliff (he/him)

Ever wonder if your large number of non-monogamous friends with ADHD is part of a larger pattern? Could there be a connection between ADHD and some of your challenges with partners/metamours/exes/kids? Frustrated that most published literature centers cis/het, monogamous couples where the male partner has ADHD? In this workshop, we will discuss these questions along with how to enhance your non-monogamous, ADHD-inclusive relationships.

Teresa (she/her) is a filmmaker and IPA (www.intimacyprofessionalsassociation.org) certified Intimacy Coordinator for Film & Television, specializing in content portraying CNM, birth, bondage and sexual/intimate partner violence. Her work is informed by multiple careers that include EMS, birth work, parenting, forensic science and epidemiology research along with her many personal dramas and sexual adventures that were likely fueled by her - until recently - undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. Having been involved in reproductive justice and advocacy work since 2014, Teresa is on a mission to promote consent culture in entertainment and the authentic representation of the vast landscape of sexuality, gender expression, and relationship styles and birthing options as an important part of good storytelling and as a positive example for progress in society at large. In spite of her turbulent start in career, relationships and general adulting, Teresa is grateful to have eventually fumbled her way into the film, CNM, and kink communities; each of which has in their own way, highlighted the strengths of her unique brain wiring while supplying the novelty she craves. 

 

Steve is a licensed mental health counselor and AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico who specializes in treating LGBTQ+, Kinky, and Consensually Nonmonogamous (CNM) clients. Steve regularly teaches on various topics at conferences, New Mexico universities, and clinical agencies. Steve joined the directors board of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) in March 2021. Steve also volunteers with the Alternative Sexual Health Research Alliance (TASHRA) and is one of the lead research associates with their International Kink Health Study that recently launched. Steve completed his Bachelor of Arts in Religious Studies in 2006 and his Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology in 2009. In 2018, Steve began doctoral studies in Clinical Psychology. Steve’s doctoral studies are focusing on gender, sexual, and relationship diversity (GSRD). Starting in 2022, Steve plans to conduct his dissertation study examining attachment patterns in kink and consensually nonmonogamous populations. Steve’s research interests include various topics in the gender, sexual, and relationship diversity (GSRD) populations.

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Teresa is pictured left. Teresa is pictured smiling in a shoulders up headshot against a dark background, wearing a green cowl neck top. She has light skin, dark brown eyes, an average build, strawberry blonde hair styled in a pixie cut and lots of little silver earrings. Note that her hair changes frequently and will probably be a different length and color by the time you meet her at which point, she will be happy to describe again.

Steve is pictured right. Steve is a big, bald guy, dark brown eyes with a smile that fills his face and has stainless steel horseshoe shaped earrings and a goatee wearing a black cap and a black shirt with white check stripes.

We will cover: - Translating existing research and resources for CNM and sexual or gender minority populations and the intersection between ADHD, polyamory and other marginalized identities - Common patterns, challenges and narratives that show up in ADHD relationships - Self-advocacy resources for adults who suspect their ADHD was missed or dismissed due to stereotypes that persist among primary care providers, mental health practitioners and educators. - Making room for compassion and relationship accomodations without sacrificing healthy boundaries. - The ADHD effect on sex, kink and physical connection. - All The Shiny Things: The underrated strengths of ADHD partners and relationships.

Accountability Starts With You
Libby Sinback (she/her) & Kyrr Kark (they/them)

"It is not possible to engage with other people and not both cause harm and experience harm. How we move through that relationally is through accountability." (me, I said that) Accountability is a popular buzz word in social justice communities, but what does it really. mean to be accountable? What does it mean to hold someone else accountable, and is that even truly possible? In this workshop we will define accountability, what it looks like, and how it impacts relationships, families, communities and culture. We will then talk through how to start practicing accountability and creating a culture of accountability in your intimate relationships.

Bio info coming soon for Libby & Kyrr!

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Sex with Trans People 101
CJ Miller (she/her) & Sevi

CJ and Sevi (a partnered polyamorous trans couple) share their experiences in navigating sex with their own bodies and with other trans/non-binary sexual partners. General tips and suggestions on how to navigate sex with trans, non-binary, and intersex bodies. Consent, reframing of language, interacting with bodies and dysphoria in a sexual context, decentering cisnormative ideas and "sexpectations" .

Bio info coming soon for CJ & Sevi!

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Speaker image coming soon! Its placeholder is the Southwest Love Fest logo in red, an illustration with a round circle, a heart sun shining on the upper left and the outline of a saguaro cactus in the center with a curvy line behind denoting the ground.

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Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say
Dee Conner (she/her)

This workshop explores the differences between rules, agreements, and boundaries and discusses why it is important to know the differences. We will discuss healthy boundaries and how to communicate then. Effective communication is always the number one thing that comes up to make ENM successful. Communication without understanding is almost always what makes ENM fall apart. What does it mean to be effective? How can you communicate your wants and needs in order to be heard and understood? What are some tools and strategies that help someone be more effective in communication? All this and more will be discussed in this interactive workshop.

​Info about Dee Conner coming soon!
 

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Speaker image coming soon! Its placeholder is the Southwest Love Fest logo in red, an illustration with a round circle, a heart sun shining on the upper left and the outline of a saguaro cactus in the center with a curvy line behind denoting the ground.

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Qi Gong Self-Massage for Healthy Relationship Boundaries
Frank Harris (he/him)

The paradigm of Traditional East Asian Medicine views the body, psyche, and spirit holistically. This workshop explains an aspect that threads through each of those levels, Wei Qi, that aids in navigating relationships via its role in both interpersonal sensitivity and in being able to set boundaries. A self-massage Qi Gong routine that strengthens and increases sensitivity to one's Wei Qi will be taught in the latter half of the workshop.

Frank Harris (he/him) is a Licensed Acupuncturist who uses Traditional East Asian Medicine to help bring his patients' lives into a state of ease and joy. He obtained his Master's from Arizona School of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine, where he learned to use acupuncture, herbal medicine, and tuina manual therapy to address the many aspects of each patient's individual whole. He has also trained in tantric and classical yoga in Chiang Mai and Tucson, and is on the provider lists for Southern Arizona Gender Alliance and Kink Aware Professionals. Frank has been involved in polyamory locally and abroad for eight years, and has a passion for bettering his community in whatever way he can. You can find him at www.hibiscusacupuncture.com.  

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Frank is a white man with short brown curly hair. He is pictured with a grey background smiling wearing a black t-shirt and colorful tatoos are visible on both biceps.

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Erotic Life Writing: Telling Your Story
Geaux (she/her)

In this workshop you will use creative writing strategies to plot a personal essay, memoir, or other creative expression of sexual healing and liberation. We will move through two exercises together the life chart and life and participants will be instructed on how to complete a “exploding the moment” diagram to organize a specific story they want to tell (in any medium.) Learning Objectives: Objective 1: Evaluate significant themes in sensual, erotic, and/or romantic lives using multiple strategies. Objective 2: Plan a creative memoir project using important life themes

I taught creative non-fiction for four years to young people. Creative nonfiction writing is a great methodology for self-exploration. I have invested time and energy developing versions of my Race, Gender, and Memoir Writing course into workshops for more mature audiences. In this most recent iteration that has looked like the Erotic Memoir Writing workshop. 

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Geaux (pronounced like Go) is a Black woman with glasses sitting with her legs spread open on top of a bright glowing light fixture and the background is an infinity mirrored corner so that you see Geaux's back reflected on both sides. The photo over all is in grayscale. Geaux is looking up with a powerful expression at the ceiling with her arms spread in a gesture to receive abundance from the universe. 

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Erotic Breathwork Instruction
M'kali-Hashiki (she/her)

Learn to use the breath to strengthen your relationships with Self, with Others, and with The Divine. This form of Erotic Breathwork is a gentle healing modality that deepens your embodiment, while reminding you that your body and your pleasure are sacred things. Erotic Breathwork can be used for a variety of functions: mediating stress & pain, meditation, spiritual journeying, and enhancing the physical, emotional, and spiritual connection with your partners.

M'kali-Hashiki is an Erotic Empowerment Consultant helping folx heal their erotic wounds so they can have the erotic & sexual life that is their Divine Birthright. She holds certifications in Sexological Bodywork; Sound, Voice, & Music Healing; and Tantric Sacred Intimacy. Simultaneously inhabiting the roles of Pleasure Priestess, Passion Griot, and Transcendence Tutor; she offers group intensives, rituals, individual sessions, instructional videos, and guided visualizations; as as well as employee events for companies & organizations. In her travels across North & Central America she teaches at colleges & universities, conferences, and the odd adult toy store or educational center. She is also a skilled Sensitivity Reader hired to read manuscripts to make sure they avoid explicit & implicit systemic bias. Her lived experiences as a fat, Black, queer, femme, trauma-survivor inform every aspect of her work. For more information, visit her website at www.FiercePassions.com

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M'kali-Hashiki is a Black woman with almost chin length tightly curled dark hair. In the picture, there is light shining down from above and she is smiling radiantly with dark red lipstick, looking slightly down at the camera. She is wear a silver chain mesh necklace and a dark jean jacket.